Who do YOU want to BE?
In my last issue, (if you missed it, check out my website’s
Archives), I spoke of creating a vision for what you want to achieve,
and nurturing it every day! That means that as soon as you wake up
in the morning, and just before you go to sleep at night (when your
consciousness is most suggestible), imagine yourself having already achieved your intention…feeling, seeing, and hearing the sensations
of satisfied accomplishment in as much detail as possible.
Now, let’s look at those moment to moment decisions you
need to make in order to continue to create the life you want,
one brick at a time. Remember Tricia, from my last newsletter?
She thought her issues were just about her weight, but what she
came to realize was that she was using her weight as an excuse
to hold herself back from moving into a leadership position at
work. In essence, she needed to see beyond her weight, and discover
the qualities the woman she desired to become would possess. For
Tricia, her realization was that, in order to be successful in
her goals, she needed to cultivate confidence, and feelings of
deservingness. She needed to remind herself that somewhere inside
her, she was already confident enough to take risks at work. She
deserved to feel wonderful about how she looked.
Armed with this awareness, she filtered everything she did through
this new belief: “I am a confident, deserving woman.” She
reminded herself of this new belief constantly. The statement greeted
her each morning in the bathroom mirror. She stuck it on the dashboard
of her car. It became her screen saver at work. Whenever she was
up against any kind of decision, or challenge, the question should
would simply ask herself was, “What would a confident
deserving woman do right now?” How would this woman respond to her
boss? How would she tackle a project? What lifestyle choices would
she make? One step at a time, Tricia learned to make the choices
embodied in the person she was learning to become.
Sometimes my clients will say, “But when I try to make
a change, it feels wooden and mechanical.” Yes it will…stretching
outside your box is, by its very nature, uncomfortable. But that
discomfort is what growth in process feels like. Like a close friend
once told me, “If you’re not uncomfortable, you’re
not growing.” But the good news is that over time, this discomfort
becomes integrated, until eventually, the new behavior becomes
a part of who you are…as natural as breathing.
So…now it's your turn! When you do your visualization,
ask yourself, “What two or three qualities do I need to grow
within myself in order to match my vision?” Formulate that
discovery into a statement that heralds the birth of your growing
self. Print it on an index card, carry it with you wherever you
go, and let it guide every choice you make!
Until next time…