Marina Lombardo, LCSW
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Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848

Welcome Everyone!


A brand new year.

A fresh start.

A clean slate to write a new chapter in our lives.

We’ve all heard the clichés before. But, the truth is that by the end of January, for most of us at least, it’ll be same old, same old.

Recently, I found myself thinking about this and wondering if the reason this is so may have something to do with the way we perceive fear.

Feature Article

A Year for Living “Dangerously”

The purpose of fear is to keep us out of harm’s way, to warn us of danger. In fact, our body actually has its own way to communicate to us when we have something to fear—the hair on the back of our neck stands on its end, our breathing gets constricted, or we may get butterflies in our stomach. “Be careful. Pay attention,” our bodies are telling us. In this way, fear is our friend—if the target of our fear is real.

For too many of us, however, our perception of what presents a danger has gone far beyond what will actually cause us harm, and has entered into the realm of anything that we believe will pose a risk to our status quo—the way we see ourselves and our world. Go back to school? Not at my age. Learn to dance? Nah, I have two left feet. Bring home a puppy? Do you know how messy puppies are? Translation: I don’t want to look foolish. I don’t want to take a risk. I don’t want anything to interrupt my world. Same old, same old.

The irony is, the very things we pull back from are often the very things we’d love to have, or do, or be. Take a moment and think about this: what if housed within your greatest fears, lay the possibility of your greatest gifts?

I remember when Veronica, a friend and spiritual director, first said this to me—I think I looked at her like she had two heads. I had just agreed to write a column for Conceive, a national magazine, and every ounce of insecurity was bleeding through. Sure, I had always wanted to write, and had written for local, small publications, but never for anything like this. The idea of writing for something of this magnitude, with hundreds of thousands of people reading what I had to say, well, just the thought of it made me feel like I was paddling as fast as I could in deep water, struggling to stay afloat. Not the most pleasant of feelings, and definitely a sign I shouldn’t be doing this, right?

Ah, not exactly, Veronica told me. This, she said, is what new life feels like, what creativity feels like. It’s like jumping into the void, literally into the unknown, so that what previously didn’t exist, will now be able to take form.

That was a light bulb moment for me. Prior to this, whenever I approached something and that internal alarm went off, I would doggedly grit my teeth and plow ahead, secretly wrestling with the thought that I was in over my head. But now, I realized, a deep desire to try something new is virtually always accompanied by some level of trepidation. Our heart’s desire and fear are linked together, at their core.

So here we are, on the threshold of a new year. What do you want to do? Stay comfortably stuck or take a risk? It’s up to you, but I will say this: on the other side of whatever you fear, something wonderful could be waiting.

And you know, there’s nothing wrong with starting small. Every time we meet our fear, or take a risk, even in small ways, we build the muscles necessary to move on to bigger things.

Like last week, when my writing partner, Linda, gave me a call.
“What do you think of roller coasters?” she asked me.
“Hate ‘em,” I told her.
“Me too.” Then without missing a beat, she added, “Want to go to Universal?”
I took a deep breath. “Sure.”

Why not live a little dangerously?

Until next time…
Be well!



What's New

Conceive on Air!

Listen live on Wednesday, at 2 pm, EST, by logging onto If you missed my 11/29/06 broadcast, with radio host Kim Hahn, on ”Fertility and Friendships", you can log onto it via my website

Archived radio shows are also available via my website, along with my prior newsletters.

Conceive Magazine

Don’t miss the newest issue, scheduled to be on newsstands on February 13, along with my featured article, “I’m ready, He’s not!

Stay tuned for my new book, "I am More than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough", with co-author Linda Parker, on track for publication this year!


Feedback from Readers

Thanks so much for your responses to my last newsletter. So many of you found Karen’s story so inspiring!

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