Marina Lombardo, LCSW
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Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848

Welcome Everyone!


In case you haven’t noticed, we’ve been having some awesome weather lately, cool and dry, just perfect for taking a walk at the end of the day.


This is one of my favorite things to do, especially after my work day of mostly sitting indoors. With my dog Mollie as my companion, I always notice something new, even though we often walk the same one mile circle that wraps around my neighborhood.

Feature Article

You Are Not Your Feelings

Not long ago, I was well into one of those walks when I realized that I wasn’t noticing anything at all. My mind was caught up in some things that had happened earlier that day, and I realized I felt annoyed and irritable.


Fast forward to the following evening, same walk, same little buddy trotting along side of me, and I’m feeling good, positive--back to my old self.


Hmmm—I thought—what’s that about? How did something that felt so real just 24 hours ago now seem like a memory, and a very distant one at that?


Later that night, my husband Mark, who is a big fan of anything on the Discovery Channel, was watching a show called, The Planet. On the broadcast, the narrator was talking about the difference between weather and climate. Personally, I never really thought much about this, but weather is what the atmosphere does today, tomorrow, next week, and climate is what the atmosphere does over a much longer period of time.


So, I thought, climate is like the baseline of who we are—how we generally perceive things and operate in our world. But the weather is like our feelings; they can change, sometimes from moment to moment .


In the course of the day, most of us can go through a wide array of feelings: an edge of annoyance at having to wait too long in a line, sadness at listening to a touching story on the news, pure joy at watching the beauty of a sunset. Feelings give texture to life. But like weather systems, they come and they go.


In fact, the key to experiencing the richness of life is to do just that: let our feelings come and go. You can’t hold on to the “good” ones, any more than you can hold on to these cool, dry days that will soon be home to summer’s heat. And resisting the clouds of sadness or anger will just cause them to hang on longer, blocking the flow of what is to come. Feelings are not negative or positive-they just are. It’s what we do with them that’s make the difference.


Your feelings are meant to inform you. They give you feedback on your experience, and can sometimes provide you with clues as to what is the best action to take. But feelings do not define you; they are not who you are.


So step into your feelings: notice them, breathe into them, and listen to what they have to share. But then, like passing clouds on a sunny day, watch them go.

Until next time…
Be well!



What's New


My book, I am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, which I co-authored with Linda J. Parker, is now available on our website: or for $17.95. The book is available on and in Barnes and Noble as well.


These tools are universal and timeless, and can apply to any crisis or life challenge.


Linda and I are also enjoying blogging about our book, and the latest in fertility news at The blog has a map that tracks where people are from, and it is truly amazing to see that people are contributing from all over the world!

Conceive on Air!


Listen live on Wednesday, at 2pm, EST by logging onto If you missed my February broadcast, Keeping It Together, when I talked about ways to keep your marriage strong when you’re trying for a baby, you can log onto my website, You can also access all archived radio shows at this site. Just navigate to “Helpful Links.”



Conceive Magazine


Next issue is scheduled to be on newsstands at the end of May. Don’t miss my Emotionally Speaking column, Dealing with the Diagnosis, which talks about preparing your relationship for parenthood.


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