Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

Winter 2009

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Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848

Welcome Everyone!


A wise person once said that if you want to know what you really believe, look at your life. Your life will reflect your beliefs, your values, even what it is you think you deserve.

Depending on your situation, this may be difficult to hear. But if you believe that your life is an accident, that it is just “happening to you,” and that it has nothing to do with what you believe, read on….


Feature Article

The Power of Your Beliefs

Let’s start with an example. Imagine a man named Randy. Randy works a lot, a lot more than he has to. Evenings, weekends, it’s always about his job. And even when he’s not working, he’s thinking about work. Now, if you ask Randy what he believes the most important thing in his life is, he’ll tell you, “family first.” But with his schedule, he barely gets to see his wife and kids at all. So despite what Randy says, it’s pretty obvious that his life speaks the truth: Randy believes that work is more important that just about anything, family included.


The reason it’s important to become aware of your beliefs is that they fuel the choices that create your life experience. This is so because your brain can’t have it any other way. What you believe MUST manifest in the choices you make because the brain cannot deal with inconsistency.


The irony is that your beliefs will reflect in your life experience even if your beliefs aren’t working for you, and even if they cause you pain.
This is because the brain doesn’t differentiate between what feels good, and what doesn’t, what you say you want and what you don’t. The brain just knows that beliefs=choices=experience.

Now I know what some you may be saying: “How about random events, things like natural disasters, accidents, things that just happen?”


Well yes, there are random events. But even here, how you choose to perceive these is based on your beliefs. Surely you know people who’ve come through the toughest situations with the strength of a positive attitude. That positive response is based on one’s beliefs; one’s beliefs determine one’s responses to the random events of life.

Again beliefs=choices=experience.

That makes you 100% responsible 100% of the time, either in what you choose to create, or how it is that you respond to what happens.


So ask yourself right now: what top three beliefs reflect your deepest values?


Then imagine that you can soar above your life and take in a bird’s eye.


Do these beliefs reflect what is happening in your life? Do they match the choices that you make?


If not, what is your life telling you about what you really believe? What adjustments can you make so that your beliefs and your choices can begin to line up and move in the direction that is right for you?


The goal is to be grounded in integrity, where your beliefs translate into the choices you make everyday. Yes, it’s a process, but committing to living in this way frees your energy to create the life you really want to live.

Until next time…
Be well!



What's New


My book, I am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, is available on our website: or


These tools are universal and timeless, and can apply to any crisis or life challenge. also features a blog site with the latest in fertility information and advice. Check it out.


Conceive Magazine


Check out my current Emotionally Speaking column on newsstands now.


Conceive Magazine has also published a special annual, where four of my columns appear, available online at


EMDR and Infertility

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful therapeutic technique that can heal trauma and maximize personal resources. Recently, Regina Morrow, LMHC, of Windermere Counseling, joined me in submitting a chapter for a new book now in development entitled, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing: EMDR Scripted Protocols. My chapter deals with using EMDR in working with fertility clients. This book is scheduled to be published by Spring Publishing Co. I’ll keep you posted!

Radio Talk Show

Recently, I was fortunate enough to be interviewed by life coach, Louise Crook, and talk about my book. You can hear the archived broadcast by going to my website,, and navigating to “Helpful Links.” (Keys to Clarity, Blog Talk Session, 10/27/08).



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