Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

Spring 2009

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Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848

Welcome Everyone!


Ask most people what it takes to achieve, and they’ll tell you: determination, effort…in other words, will. This is the country of rugged individualism, after all. If you want it, you just have to get out there and make it happen, right?


Well, yes and no. Will has its place, no doubt. But if you are serious about getting where you want to go, you need something more to take you through life’s unexpected twists and turns. Learning how to partner your will with this “something more” can make all the difference.


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When Will Meets Willingness

The definition of will is desire combined with determination. Will propels you to take the first step in anything you undertake. Whether it’s a desire to play a sport, start a company, or redecorate your house, it is your will that pushes you to take action.


The only problem with this paradigm is that life has a mind of its own. The best laid plans rarely unfold the way you imagined, and using just your will to continue to push through can quickly become stressful.


So what’s wrong with will? Nothing, really. It’s just that, as much as will is powerful, it was never designed to take you all the way to the finish line alone. That’s where willingness comes in.

To get a feel for how will and willingness operate, try this experiment: Imagine something you need to accomplish, such as complete a work project, or tackle a list of errands.


Now, while imagining your goal, will yourself to get it done. Notice what happens—your breathing, your body.

Now shake it out, and imagine your goal again, this time trying on willingness. Again notice what happens in the breath and in the body.

If you’re like most people, there will be a discernible difference. Will feels like work; it takes effort. Willingness is the opposite; it feels like a letting go.


This distinction is important because in order to accomplish anything in life, both will and willingness is necessary. Use your will to state your intentions, clarify your goals, and take the necessary steps. Then use your willingness to notice what comes into your experience, to make adjustments, and even change course if need be, and ultimately let go of the outcome.


Sound difficult? That’s the irony; even though willingness takes less effort, most people find it more difficult to do. That’s because it’s hard to let go of how you think things should go. But the price you pay—emotional stress, even physical ailments—is undeniably high.


Willingness is an art. It takes practice and trust—trust in your own resources and resilience, and trust that life has a wisdom all its own. Being willing to partner with this wisdom is what achieving true success is all about.


Until next time…
Be well!


What's New


My book, I am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, is available on our website: or


These tools are universal and timeless, and can apply to any crisis or life challenge.


Conceive Magazine


Check out my current Emotionally Speaking column on newsstands now.


Check out my current Emotionally Speaking column, Friendly Advice, which talks about the power of friendships. It’s on newsstands now.


New Happenings in EMDR


EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful therapeutic technique that can heal trauma and maximize personal resources. Recently, Regina Morrow, LMHC, joined me in submitting a chapter for a new book now entitled, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing: EMDR Scripted Protocols. This book is scheduled to be published by Spring Publishing Co. I’ll keep you posted!



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