Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

Summer 2010

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Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848

Welcome Everyone!


My last newsletter, Relationships 101, presented the first part of an imaginary course on relationship basics. If you haven’t read it yet, go to my website,; click on Past Newsletters and go to the Spring 2010 issue.


This newsletter introduces Part 2, or Relationships 201. Read on for some thoughts about what your present relationships say about you, and how to make changes if you don’t like what you’re hearing…


Feature Article

Relationships 201

Lesson 1: Your relationships with other people are extensions of your relationship with yourself.


If you look at the people you choose to spend time with, you do so because you have things in common. Maybe you share an interest or you come from similar backgrounds. It’s also common to be attracted to people who have certain qualities that you admire and would like to grow in yourself.


Lesson 2: The people you most enjoy being with are ones who bring out the best in you.


Another way of saying this is that you like who YOU are when you are around certain people. For example, if you like to think of yourself as having a good sense of humor, you probably like to be around people who laugh at your jokes and stories. It feels good when others validate what you see as your best qualities.


Lesson 3: Relationships become a problem when you project a broken part of yourself onto another person, and then think that you can fix yourself by fixing or changing the other person.


Ironically, these may be people who you are most drawn to because unconsciously you believe that these relationships are an opportunity for you to heal and become whole again. Of course, this doesn’t work because you can only heal yourself, never anyone else.


Lesson 4: As you grow and become healthier, there’s less attraction to broken people.


For example, if you have addressed your own issues of loss and abandonment, people locked in this pattern are no longer attractive to you. There’s no click: there’s no broken part of you that’s connecting with a broken part of them.


Lesson 5: The best way to heal is to give yourself all the loving support you can, and to surround yourself with people who will do the same.


Which brings you back to Relationships 101:
Lesson 1: We teach people how to treat us.


And around and around it goes.


The real question is: If you don’t like what’s happening in your relationship life, what are your challenges saying about you?


Until next time…
Be well!



What's New


EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that heals trauma and optimizes well-being. Issues such as depression, pain, anxiety, grief, relationship issues, even personal coaching, respond beautifully to EMDR therapy. As a certified EMDR practitioner, I am truly energized by the breakthroughs and healings I get to witness in my clients virtually every day. I feel grateful to be a contributing author in the textbook for clinicians, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing: Special Populations.


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