Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

Spring 2011

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Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848

Welcome Everyone!


Did you ever notice that your mind is always asking and answering questions? If you take a moment to tune in, you’ll notice that many of these questions start off with the word “why,” and they are the ones you tend to ask over and over again. For example:


“Why does this keep happening to me?”
“Why can’t I get what I want?”


Sound familiar?


Did you ever think that the reason that you keep asking the same questions is because “why” questions are usually unanswerable, and they can keep your mind circling endlessly. “Why” questions, along with the stress of “trying to figure things out” is exhausting and often the very type of thinking that keeps you locked into a problem.


So, if what you really want is answers, maybe it’s time to change the type of questions you ask…

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Asking the Right Questions

Einstein once said that it is impossible to solve a problem in the same consciousness in which it was created. So if you were angry or afraid or upset when a problem occurred, and asking a “why” question brings up those same feelings, it becomes virtually impossible to resolve the problem from that perspective. In a word, you are stuck!


So a great way to access a world of potential answers is to start paying attention to the type of questions you ask, and reconstruct them. That means to change your “why” questions into “how” and “what” questions. This helps you to see your issues and problems in a new way.


For example, rather than always asking, “Why am I stuck in a job I hate?” you can change that question to, “How can I create a job where I can be creative, have fun and make great money?” Rather than asking, “Why do I have one disastrous relationship after another?” ask, “How can I attract a loving, supportive partner into my life?” Rather than asking, “Why me?” ask, “What can I learn from this experience?”


Equally as important as the questions you ask is the attitude with which you ask them. Rather than the glum pessimism of “why” questions, shift your attitude into one of curiosity and wonder. With the right question and the right attitude, information and guidance can now be accessible to you. You may find yourself talking to just the right person or reading the perfect magazine article that opens a doorway of new possibility.


It is amazing how easy it is to become so fixated on complaining that you lose sight of what you really want. That’s where the Right Questions come in. Once you get clear on your questions, resistance and blocks often disappear, and the answers you are looking can finally emerge.


“Why” is about your past. But “how” and “what” is about where you are going. You may never know why certain things in your life happened the way they did. But with the Right Questions in hand, you can move toward fulfilling your dreams and creating the results you want.


Until next time…
Be well!



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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that heals trauma and optimizes well-being. Issues such as depression, pain, anxiety, grief, relationship issues, even personal coaching, respond beautifully to EMDR therapy. As a certified EMDR practitioner, I am truly energized by the breakthroughs and healings I get to witness in my clients virtually every day.


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