The Under Side of the Story
Over time, Lisa was able to see herself as the remarkable person
she truly is. But what facilitated this transformation was her realization
that her past served as a catalyst to who she had become. In essence,
Lisa came to realize that she didn’t turn out to be who she
is in spite of her past experiences, but because of them.
It’s human nature for us to try and push away pieces of ourselves
we don’t like, broken parts we see in our shortcomings, our
failures and our struggles. But when we do this, we live an empty
version of ourselves, stunted and incomplete. But when we embrace
all of who we are---the good, and yes, even the bad, and the ugly—we
become whole and unstoppable. We become fearless.
All of us admire “thrivers”—people who have overcome
incredible obstacles and who not only survive their challenges, but
use them as fuel to grow incredible lives. Our admiration is not
an accident. Perhaps we sense that like them, we too have within
us the potential to turn adversity into greatness. As Viktor Frankl
, the Austrian psychiatrist who survived the Holocaust once said, “What
is to give light must endure burning.”
The mistakes we make and the struggles we experience …these
very things are the source of wisdom and transformation. The paradox
is that only in embracing the whole of who we are can we become all
that we are meant to be.
Until next time…