A Gentler, Kinder Resolution
Most resolutions focus on self-improvement. For example, this is the year you will finally lose that weight, or get organized. The problem with these resolutions is that they can seem as if they are putting even more stress on your life, which is why it’s so easy to fall off the wagon.
But what if you’ve been going about it backwards? You see, there are some people who indeed do find success. And if you talk to them, you will discover a common theme: truly successful people make choices that ultimately cause them to feel good about themselves.
So what if your resolution this year is focused on ways to feel good about your choices right now? An easy way to begin is to consider the most obvious: people, places and things already in your life.
Here are some simple ideas to get you started:
People: Identify those people whose company you truly enjoy…those relationships where the norm is that both of you walk away feeling lighter somehow. Now make a plan in advance to have contact--talk on the phone, have coffee—on a regular basis.
Places: Do you enjoy sitting by the lake, walking your dog around a particular neighborhood, visiting a certain bookstore, or taking quiet time in a favorite chair? Is there a way to build a small indulgence into your schedule so that it becomes a natural extension of your life?
Things: This is my personal favorite because it is so easy, yet can make such a big difference. What are the little things that really feel good to do…those random acts of kindness? Giving a genuine compliment, smiling at a stranger, waiting long enough to hold the door for someone…these take virtually no time, and yet they remind us of our connection with others and pay it forward in ways you can’t even imagine.
These small steps are cumulative and over time have the power to create a rewarding life. And when you do things that make you feel good about yourself, success naturally follows.
Blessings in the New Year!
Until next time…