Loving Our Limits
To be honest, I used to think this way too. But over time, things started to change. Maybe it was getting older, maybe it was having a body that wouldn’t keep quiet and cooperate, or maybe was realizing that the satisfaction on the other side of the goal was never what I imagined it to be. Whatever the reason, I began to question this premise.
My work influenced my perception as well. Clients I worked with, many of them high achievers, believed that the opposite of pushing the limits was to be lazy, a failure, or to just settle for the status quo. But the exhaustion I witnessed was the ugly underside of this thinking. The very mentality that was supposed to foster success often caused feelings of anger, dissatisfaction, compromised relationships, ill health and ironically, a sense of being a failure.
Apparently, something had gone very wrong. The concept of limits needed to be redefined and seen from a different point of view.
Limits, I realized, are there to remind us that there needs to be a balance between setting goals that that stretch us and engaging in things we can realistically accomplish. Limits are about saying “yes;” but also, having the courage to say “NO!”
So maybe it isn’t so much about pushing the limits, as it is about honoring them…and yes, even loving them. Our limits are there for a reason: to remind us that we are vulnerable, that we are human, and that each of us is connected to one another’s hopes, aspirations and struggles.
Limits are holy…to be acknowledged and respected. And perhaps it’s only in doing so that we are able to realize that we are so much more than our limits, and that they really don’t define us at all.
Until next time…