Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

SEEDS OF GROWTH NEWSLETTER
Spring 2013

In This Issue...

Introduction
Feature Article
What's New
Feedback from Readers

Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848
www.marinalombardo.com


Welcome Everyone and Happy New Year!

 

We live in a world where sometimes it seems that success is measured by how much we can exceed our limits. Remember Tiger Woods walking on his damaged ACL to win the 2008 US Open?  Or the gymnast Kerri Scrug in the 1996 Atlanta Olympics who performed the vault on her injured ankle to carry her team to the gold medal? How about celebrities who compete on a TV reality show and brag about how they fly from coast to coast, with virtually no sleep, to meet conflicting commitments?

 

And how many people do we personally know who routinely burn the candle at both ends to meet incredibly demanding schedules?

 

Certainly this level of motivation and stamina is something to be admired. And none of us can judge what another person is capable of doing.

 

But when this extreme becomes the celebrated model,  a disturbing underlying message gets communicated as well: to really be a success, we have to be willing to not heed limitations, not listen to our bodies, to keep pushing at all costs. 





Feature Article

Loving Our Limits



To be honest, I used to think this way too. But over time, things started to change.  Maybe it was getting older, maybe it was having a body that wouldn’t keep quiet and cooperate, or maybe was realizing that the satisfaction on the other side of the goal was never what I imagined it to be. Whatever the reason, I began to question this premise.

 

My work influenced my perception as well. Clients I worked with, many of them high achievers, believed that the opposite of pushing the limits was to be lazy, a failure, or to just settle for the status quo. But the exhaustion I witnessed was the ugly underside of this thinking. The very mentality that was supposed to foster success often caused feelings of anger, dissatisfaction, compromised relationships, ill health and ironically, a sense of being a failure.

 

Apparently, something had gone very wrong. The concept of limits needed to be redefined and seen from a different point of view.

 

Limits, I realized, are there to remind us that there needs to be a balance between setting goals that that stretch us and engaging in things we can realistically accomplish. Limits are about saying “yes;” but also, having the courage to say “NO!”

 

So maybe it isn’t so much about pushing the limits, as it is about honoring them…and yes, even loving them. Our limits are there for a reason: to remind us that we are vulnerable, that we are human, and that each of us is connected to one another’s hopes, aspirations and struggles.

 

Limits are holy…to be acknowledged and respected. And perhaps it’s only in doing so that we are able to realize that we are so much more than our limits, and that they really don’t define us at all.

 

Until next time…
Be well!
Marina

 

What's New

 

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that has been successfully used to treat phobias, complicated grief, panic attacks, performance anxiety, sexual and/or physical abuse, trauma, pain disorders, as well as personal coaching, performance enhancement and much more.

 

In addition, Katie O’Shea, M.S., L.M.H.C., has developed an EMDR protocol to address issues of early trauma and neglect that occurred prior to the age of 3. Now there is way to clear issues that happened early in life, such as those related to adoption, birth or early childhood trauma, that can manifest in adult symptomology. I so enjoyed participating in this training. Many thanks to Katie for developing such a life-changing model.

 

My work with couples has taken on a new dimension with the integration of Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. Studies have shown that this type of counseling, which helps couples address and heal problematic cycles in their relationship, has been found to have the highest degree of long-lasting success.

 

Many thanks for your referrals and your outstanding support of my practice!

 

For more information about my practice, be sure to visit my website at www.marinalombardo.com

 

My book, I Am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, is available through www.amazon.com. These tools are timeless and can apply to any crisis or life challenge.

 

 

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