Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

Winter 2014

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Feature Article
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Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848

Welcome Everyone!


The New Year is underway, and for many, this marks a time of new beginnings. Perhaps you have resolved to follow a new plan of action, or you have a desire to do something different this year.


But what prompts your desire to make a change?  Are you hoping to receive acknowledgment or approval from others? Or does your motivation come from your own deep desire?


Do you know the difference?


Knowing the source of your motivation is important because ultimately, it can determine whether you make choices that truly bring you joy.


Feature Article

Living from the Inside Out

Everybody, to a large extent, takes cues for how they look, how they behave, and even what they expect, from others. This way of operating makes sense when you remember that as children, learning to please your parents or caregivers profoundly determined the quality of your life. Make mom happy, and life was good. Displease her, and….well, you know the rest.


The issue arises when, as adults, this need for external validation becomes the primary measuring rod that determines your choices. On the surface, this may look like you are being responsible or trying hard to be successful. But a closer look reveals that the source of what drives you is getting the nod of approval from others.


There’s nothing wrong with wanting support or validation from those around you. But when this becomes the primary motivation, you can live your whole life and never experience the joy of accomplishing something that springs from your own authentic desire.


So how can you strengthen the muscle of your own inspiration?


One way is to for you to commit to a self-nurturing activity, however small, just because it feels good for you. Perhaps you may want to begin a simple meditation practice, or commit to a craft or artistic expression you enjoy, or set time aside each day for a mindful walk. Maybe there’s a lifestyle change you’d like to make like cutting back on caffeine or taking the stairs at work, rather than riding the elevator.


Now here’s the critical part: whatever it is you decide to do, make this a private matter, not something you share with others. Then notice what it feels like to do something for you, without any acknowledgement from anyone else.


This may look like a simple choice, but beware: there may be some resistance. You may have a desire to share with others, even casually, in the hopes of getting their approval or shoring yourself up. It’s important here to not act on this inclination, but just to notice it.


What you are doing is unraveling decades of conditioning where you learned to rely on the outside world as your sole barometer, and begin building a connectedness to your own deep center as well.


Stay with this simple practice and you will nurture the discipline to act authentically and independently…and discover strength greater than anything you could have imagined!


Until next time…
Be well!


What's New


EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that has been successfully used to treat phobias, complicated grief, panic attacks, performance anxiety, sexual and/or physical abuse, trauma, pain disorders, as well as personal coaching, performance enhancement and much more.


My work with couples has taken on a new dimension with the integration of Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. Studies have shown that this type of counseling, which helps couples address and heal problematic cycles in their relationship, has been found to have the highest degree of long-lasting success.


Many thanks for your referrals and your outstanding support of my practice!


For more information about my practice, be sure to visit my website at


My book, I Am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, is available through These tools are timeless and can apply to any crisis or life challenge.



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