Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

SEEDS OF GROWTH NEWSLETTER
Fall 2014

In This Issue...

Introduction
Feature Article
What's New
Feedback from Readers

Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848
www.marinalombardo.com


Welcome Everyone!

 

Just this month, three scientists were awarded a Nobel Prize for discovering the brain’s GPS system. Their research laid the foundation for understanding how time, place and experience meld together to form the memories by which we define ourselves.

 

This got me thinking that the way we interpret things is really just made up of cells, circuits and patterns in the brain, creating a type of filter through which we experience life. We don’t see things as they really are. We see them as our brain interprets them…which may have nothing to do with what is really going on!

 

And while we are lost in thought, creating our stories and interpretations, life is happening.

 

And we are missing it.

 

However, there is the possibility to move beyond this mind-created stuff and experience life directly, just as it is. In doing so, the space opens to make better choices, go with the flow and relish the moment.

 

But first, we have to become aware of the stories we are telling ourselves and how they are standing in our way.


Feature Article

What's Your Story?



Our stories determine how we experience a particular situation. Life happens, our brain interprets, and labels like, “stupid, undeserving, failure, unlucky, victim” are born.

 

A good way to get a glimpse of our own story is to step back and look at some of the pivotal events in our lives—a failed relationship, a job layoff, a relationship with an abusive parent. Then ask, “What’s the story I’m telling myself about this situation?”

 

For example, a failed relationship could translate into, “I can’t trust anyone.”  A job lay off, “I’m a failure.” An abusive parent, “I’ll never be good enough.”

 

Why do we get attached to our stories?

 

Stories can provide a sense of safety, even if they are painful. We imagine that if we can fit our present experience into a previous interpretation, we have some control over the situation.  Stories can also be a way of avoiding painful feelings and can seem to help us make sense of difficult situations.

 

But the problem is that these negative beliefs and filters are not real. We make them up…and they block us from being able to see a situation for what it really is. We end up having a relationship with our stories rather than with life itself. Our days end up feeling dried up and stale, the same damn thing over and over again.

 

So how do we move beyond our story?

 

Well, perhaps the more important question is, “Who am I without my story?” Do we have the willingness and the courage to be present to a  situation now exactly as it is. That means putting our thoughts on pause, and being present to what is without judgment, analysis, or deciding whether we like what is happening or not.

 

Essentially, in the absence of mental filters, we allow our mind, body and heart to be open and receptive to the moment, standing back and observing ourselves and the event, and letting what is happening reveal itself to us, in all its wisdom.

 

Without mind-created suffering, there are still feelings. There can be pain, tenderness, sorrow, tears, openness, love. But rather than getting stuck on sticky storylines, we can let these feelings wash over us, leaving us feeling fully alive in the shimmering presence of this moment.

 

Until next time…
Be well!
Marina

 

What's New

 

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that has been successfully used to treat phobias, complicated grief, panic attacks, performance anxiety, sexual and/or physical abuse, trauma, pain disorders, as well as personal coaching, performance enhancement and much more.

 

My work with couples has taken on a new dimension with the integration of Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. Studies have shown that this type of counseling, which helps couples address and heal problematic cycles in their relationship, has been found to have the highest degree of long-lasting success.

 

Many thanks for your referrals and your outstanding support of my practice!

 

For more information about my practice, be sure to visit my website at www.marinalombardo.com

 

My book, I Am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, is available through www.amazon.com. These tools are timeless and can apply to any crisis or life challenge.

 

 

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