Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

Spring 2015

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Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848

Welcome Everyone


There’s a common assumption that growing up happens only in the first stage of life. You grow from a tiny infant into an adult, and then from there, rather than growing up, you just grow old. 


But a closer look tells us that in fact, the opposite is true. Opportunities for maturation span across a lifetime. But without the obvious physical changes that accompany growth early on in life, the signs might be easy to miss.


So, how can you recognize the ways you can continue to “grow up,” no matter how old you are?

Feature Article

No Pain, No Gain

To hear the way some self-help experts tell it, there’s a simple formula to positive growth: say the right affirmations, think positive thoughts, visualize the outcome, or adopt some other easy formula, and voila! change happens.


Then, when you start to struggle, or hit a wall, you become convinced that something has gone awry.  Change shouldn’t feel this hard, right?




Imagine, for instance, that you’ve decided to begin an exercise program. You buy new sneakers, dig up that gym membership, maybe even tape a picture of the “new you” on your bathroom mirror. But pretty soon, you lose some steam; your muscles get sore, that snooze button in the morning is awfully tempting, and you’re not seeing results. Before you know it, the best laid plans have been cast aside.


Now, what most people fail to recognize is that the resistance, in this case, the physical discomfort and the negative self talk, is what growth feels like. The discomfort is the growth, your choice point, so to speak. You get to look squarely at what’s blocked you in the past and decide whether to move beyond it.
The same holds true in any situation where your goal is to grow past where you are now. Marketing your business may translate into overcoming your dread of public speaking. Having a healthier relationship with your partner can push you to confront your fears of vulnerability, or talk about some long-buried issues.


You can start by being curious about your own experience in the face of an obstacle or challenge. How do you react? Does your breathing get shallow? Does your chest get heavy? Do you have a queasy feeling in the pit of your stomach? That discomfort is your body’s unique way of communicating that you are at a choice point.


The question is:  do you interpret this feedback as a signal to retreat, or do you take a deep breath and see this for what it can be…. an invitation to grow?


Confusion, uncertainty, a sense that the ground is shaky underneath you (or maybe there’s no ground at all!)…this is what growth feels like. Time and again, life teaches you that the satisfaction of lasting change comes only to those who have the courage of realize that “the only way out is through.”


The good news? The discomfort of growth doesn’t last. Sooner than you think, what you once thought was an insurmountable mountain becomes a new place to live.


And the rewards? Well, just ask anyone who’s made the effort:)


Until next time…
Be well!


What's New


In April, I’m excited to be traveling to Minneapolis to attend Dr. Jim Knipe’s seminar, The EMDR Toolbox: Methods for Treating Complex PTSD and Dissociative Personality Structure.


Many thanks to the local EMDR Study Group in Maitland for providing me with the opportunity this month to do a presentation on my publication, (The EMDR Target Time Line) which appeared in the Journal of EMDR Practice and Research.


EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that has been successfully used to treat phobias, complicated grief, panic attacks, performance anxiety, sexual and/or physical abuse, trauma, pain disorders, as well as personal coaching, performance enhancement and much more.


My work with couples has taken on a new dimension with the integration of Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. Studies have shown that this type of counseling, which helps couples address and heal problematic cycles in their relationship, has been found to have the highest degree of long-lasting success.


Many thanks for your referrals and your outstanding support of my practice!


For more information about my practice, be sure to visit my website at


My book, I Am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, is available through These tools are timeless and can apply to any crisis or life challenge.



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