Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

SEEDS OF GROWTH NEWSLETTER
Summer 2015

In This Issue...

Introduction
Feature Article
What's New
Feedback from Readers

Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848
www.marinalombardo.com


Welcome Everyone

 

Everybody wants to be happy, right?

 

You work hard, buy something you love (whether or not you can afford it!), imagine what it would be like to be with a certain partner, have a baby, be successful, move to a particular place, look forward to retirement ….why? Because you believe that the end result will make you happy.

 

In fact, you might say that the desire to be happy drives just about every choice you make.

 

Unfortunately, with this mentality, the opposite is also true.

 

Not getting what you want runs the risk of making you unhappy. And with life being what it is, it’s safe to say that’s going to happen.

 

And so you run the risk of always being at odds with life…struggling to get what you want, afraid of what will happen if you don’t, and always looking to the next thing to bring that longed-for happiness.

 

That doesn’t sound like a formula for a happy life at all.


Feature Article

Loving What Is



Sometimes it seems that the world is hypnotized into thinking that the answer to being happy is something to strive for out there. And while there’s nothing wrong with going after what you want, it’s a myth to believe that this alone will bring peace and contentment. What about all those times when things don’t go your way, and people don’t behave the way you want? How do you find happiness then?

 

Well, here’s a question: what if happiness is not out there, but instead is the core of who you are. What if the essence of your very nature is to be happy, and it’s the struggling and fighting with life that causes you to be unhappy?

 

Go ahead and try an experiment right now. No matter where you are or what is happening, take a moment and just stop.
Breathe.

 

Now notice how you are feeling, and see if any emotions are arising.
Notice what is happening in your body, any aches or discomfort, tension or tightness.
Notice what is happening around you…a desk full of work, stuck in traffic, irritated by someone talking loudly on their cell phone.
Notice how your mind wants to argue with what is, wants to change it in some way, how it wants for things to be different.

 

Now notice what happens when you drop the argument, when you let whatever is happening be exactly the way it is.
You don’t have to control it or change it. Just be with what is.

 

If you pay close attention, what you may notice is that the moment your mind stops, a stillness arises. In that moment, you are not in conflict with yourself, and you are not in conflict with what is happening. You are just being.

 

That place of being is where happiness lives. And that essence is awake and alive all the time, even if you’re not aware of it.

 

It’s natural to want to change what you don’t like. But action that arises from the resistance of arguing with life just perpetuates conflict, inside and out. But action that arises from acceptance opens the way for you to make choices that result in clarity and resolution.

 

Practicing these mini-breaks of presence is a way to cultivate an ease and a love for whatever life brings in the moment. Rather than contracting from life, you whole heartedly step into the all of it, loving what is.

 

And only then do you discover that the happiness you seek is already and always present, just waiting for you.

 

Until next time…
Be well!
Marina

 

What's New

 

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that has been successfully used to treat phobias, complicated grief, panic attacks, performance anxiety, sexual and/or physical abuse, trauma, pain disorders, as well as personal coaching, performance enhancement and much more.  For more information on EMDR, go to their website at www.emdria.org.

 

My work with couples has taken on a new dimension with the integration of  Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. Studies have shown that this type of counseling, which helps couples address and heal problematic cycles in their relationship, has been found to have the highest degree of long-lasting success. Check out their website at www.iceeft.com.

 

Many thanks for your referrals and your outstanding support of my practice!

 

For more information about my practice, be sure to visit my website at www.marinalombardo.com

 

My book, I Am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, is available through www.amazon.com. These tools are timeless and can apply to any crisis or life challenge.

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