Loving What Is
Sometimes it seems that the world is hypnotized into thinking that the answer to being happy is something to strive for out there. And while there’s nothing wrong with going after what you want, it’s a myth to believe that this alone will bring peace and contentment. What about all those times when things don’t go your way, and people don’t behave the way you want? How do you find happiness then?
Well, here’s a question: what if happiness is not out there, but instead is the core of who you are. What if the essence of your very nature is to be happy, and it’s the struggling and fighting with life that causes you to be unhappy?
Go ahead and try an experiment right now. No matter where you are or what is happening, take a moment and just stop.
Now notice how you are feeling, and see if any emotions are arising.
Notice what is happening in your body, any aches or discomfort, tension or tightness.
Notice what is happening around you…a desk full of work, stuck in traffic, irritated by someone talking loudly on their cell phone.
Notice how your mind wants to argue with what is, wants to change it in some way, how it wants for things to be different.
Now notice what happens when you drop the argument, when you let whatever is happening be exactly the way it is.
You don’t have to control it or change it. Just be with what is.
If you pay close attention, what you may notice is that the moment your mind stops, a stillness arises. In that moment, you are not in conflict with yourself, and you are not in conflict with what is happening. You are just being.
That place of being is where happiness lives. And that essence is awake and alive all the time, even if you’re not aware of it.
It’s natural to want to change what you don’t like. But action that arises from the resistance of arguing with life just perpetuates conflict, inside and out. But action that arises from acceptance opens the way for you to make choices that result in clarity and resolution.
Practicing these mini-breaks of presence is a way to cultivate an ease and a love for whatever life brings in the moment. Rather than contracting from life, you whole heartedly step into the all of it, loving what is.
And only then do you discover that the happiness you seek is already and always present, just waiting for you.
Until next time…