Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

SEEDS OF GROWTH NEWSLETTER
Fall 2015

In This Issue...

Introduction
Feature Article
What's New
Feedback from Readers

Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848
www.marinalombardo.com


Welcome Everyone

 

Life happens, and if you hang around this planet long enough, life will happen to you. Unforeseen or inevitable life experiences will present themselves. You get sick. Your spouse loses her job. Someone you love dies. Life can be tough.

 

These are not unusual situations, and these occurrences are not necessarily an indication that you are doing anything wrong. They are the stuff of life, and everyone will experience them.

 

The goal is not to diminish or avoid life’s challenges. But the goal is to live in a way that doesn’t add an extra dimension of heartache to what is already hard.


Feature Article

Fact vs. Fiction



Imagine a situation in your life with which you are presently struggling. Once you have named it, put your thoughts on pause.
Now notice your physical body, your  breathing, your body sensations. Look around you and see what is present around you, without labeling anything in any way. Give yourself a few minutes to just be.  Breathe.

 

Now, let your thoughts unravel and pay attention to what happens. Notice how it’s impossible for the mind to stay in the moment. Pay attention to how thoughts will inevitably weave their hypnotic spell from the past into the future.

 

For example, a job loss brings back memories of never feeling good enough, or of prior failures.  Future fears may rear their head: how will you pay your bills? Or be able to find another job? Suddenly, your mind is spinning with added layers of misery, its stories inflicting untold suffering. Every part of you reacts in stress.

 

The mind’s way of trying to handle the present situation is by conjuring up some kind of story, one of blame, regret or consolation. The mind does this in an attempt to bypass, justify or diminish the angst of the moment. But here’s the problem: the very pain that you are trying to avoid by resisting the moment is the very stuff that creates the suffering.

 

The mind reshuffles the deck, imposing the past into the future because that’s all it knows how to do. And since the mind shifts out of the present to conjure up its stories, the wisdom of the moment, with its options and resources, is no longer available.  You end up replacing the fact of what is…clean, simple, even if it’s painful… with the fictional story of what was or could be.

 

The truth is that the mind’s feeble attempt at interpreting the past and projecting it into the future offers no protection or preparation for what is to come. But when things are allowed to be as they are without the thinking that filters the experience, there may be pain, yes…but without the added suffering.

 

Living a rich, full life means that there will be heartache as well as joy, tenderness as well as hurt, passion as well as pain.
And living with an open heart, in all its breathtaking aliveness means that you’ll be there too, not missing a single moment.

 

Until next time…
Be well!
Marina

 

What's New

 

I am honored to have been asked to be part of an advisory committee at Stetson University as they seek to develop and implement a Trauma Certificate Program as part of their graduate curriculum developmentSo excited to be a part of such important work in training new graduates in the mental health field.

 

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that has been successfully used to treat phobias, complicated grief, panic attacks, performance anxiety, sexual and/or physical abuse, trauma, pain disorders, as well as personal coaching, performance enhancement and much more.  For more information on EMDR, go to their website at www.emdria.org.

 

My work with couples has taken on a new dimension with the integration of  Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. Studies have shown that this type of counseling, which helps couples address and heal problematic cycles in their relationship, has been found to have the highest degree of long-lasting success. Check out their website at www.iceeft.com.

 

Many thanks for your referrals and your outstanding support of my practice!

 

For more information about my practice, be sure to visit my website at www.marinalombardo.com

 

My book, I Am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, is available through www.amazon.com. These tools are timeless and can apply to any crisis or life challenge.

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