Marina Lombardo, LCSW
Within Every Challenge...

...Are the Seeds of Opportunity

SEEDS OF GROWTH NEWSLETTER
Spring 2016

In This Issue...

Introduction
Feature Article
What's New
Feedback from Readers

Marina Lombardo
Psychotherapy, Counseling & Personal Coaching
Lake Bennet Medical Center
1151 Blackwood Avenue, Suite 120
Ocoee, FL 34761
(407) 615-0848
www.marinalombardo.com


Welcome Everyone

 

There sure seems to be a lot to worry about these days. Just flip open a newspaper, go online or tune into never-ending cable news. And that’s not even including the personal challenges people struggle with every day. Uncertainty, crisis and possible doom can appear to be almost everywhere.

 

It’s as if the whole of humanity is collectively holding its breath. Fear in all its forms…anxiety, tension, stress, rumination, worry…seems to be the only natural response.

 

Or is it? Rather than taking this reaction for granted, perhaps it would be helpful to pause and see whether there is a saner way to respond.



Feature Article

Be Where You Are



The true nature of fear is purposeful. Fear warns you and provides a way to access your past experiences to make good choices to avoid harm. You step back when you see a speeding car before crossing the street or you run away if physically threatened.

 

But that’s different from psychological fear. This type of fear has no concrete, imminent danger. It calls to you, off in the future somewhere, a vague harbinger of misfortune.

 

This kind of fear creates a gap. You are here…and the fear of something, anything is out there somewhere. That gap can become wide and yawning, holding a boatload of dread and anxiety. You can’t resolve it because you can never grab hold of it. This fear is a phantom constructed by the mind. And it robs you of your life.

 

The only sane response is to close the gap between now and a nonexistent then. Easier said than done you say…and you are right. The solution is simple, but not necessarily easy. It requires discipline and practice to bring your attention to the here and now, where you truly live.

 

One way to get started is simply to pay attention to your breathing. Notice what your breath feels like as it enters and leaves the body…the inhalation of your lungs, the rising of your chest, the release of letting go. Your breath can immediately bring you into the present because it is always happening in right now.
Next become aware of your surroundings. Press your feet on the floor to the count of three. Release to a count of three and repeat.
Look closely at what is around you, and notice what you see. For example, pick out three things that are green, three things that are square, three things made of wood.
Now listen. See if you can name three sounds, near or far away.

 

Now ask yourself, “Am I safe in this moment, right now?

 

If the answer is yes, as it most often will be, realize that what you’ve just done is close that anxiety gap. Bringing yourself into the present is the only way to do that. And in the present you have choices. In the present you have power.

 

Trying to grab hold of slippery “what ifs” squanders enormous energy, leaving you too exhausted to meet life at your best.

 

But when you are present to the here and now, your energy and resources increase exponentially, allowing you meet challenges with wisdom and grace.

 

Until next time
Be well!
Marina

 

What's New

 

For more information about mindfulness and mindfulness practice,
go to Mindfulness Education and Training at the Center for Mindfulness: University of Massachusetts Medical School.
www.umassmed.edu/cfm

 

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that has been successfully used to treat phobias, complicated grief, panic attacks, performance anxiety, sexual and/or physical abuse, trauma, pain disorders, as well as personal coaching, performance enhancement and much more.  For more information on EMDR, go to their website at www.emdria.org.

 

My work with couples has taken on a new dimension with the integration of Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. Studies have shown that this type of counseling, which helps couples address and heal problematic cycles in their relationship, has been found to have the highest degree of long-lasting success. Check out their website at www.iceeft.com.

 

Many thanks for your referrals and your outstanding support of my practice!

 

For more information about my practice, be sure to visit my website at www.marinalombardo.com

 

My book, I Am More Than My Infertility: 7 Proven Tools for Turning a Life Crisis into a Personal Breakthrough, is available through www.amazon.com. These tools are timeless and can apply to any crisis or life challenge.

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