Keep On Keeping On
In a way, growth is kind of like that. You decide there’s some aspect of your life that needs change. Maybe your attitude needs improving, or you feel stuck in your job. Perhaps your weight has become a health concern, or the life seems to have gone out of your marriage. Whatever it is, you know the time has come for you to take action.
At first, there’s a high level of motivation that gets you to make the commitment to change. This energy creates momentum that supports you in taking the first steps--you join a gym, or commit to therapy, or implement new lifestyle choices.
But then, before you’ve barely gotten started, a custom made temptation or trigger finds its way into you life. Your spouse says just the thing that sets you off. Or your friend happens to serve your favorite desert at a dinner party. It’s not your imagination, and it’s not life playing with your head.
It’s the process of growth, pure and simple. It’s almost as if life is saying, “You want change? Great! Let’s have all the things that have challenged you in the past show up in your life, so that now you can choose differently!” So, within these very obstacles are invitations—and opportunities—for the very change you want to see happen.
Here’s a rule of thumb for you: Chaos and confusion always precede growth. Always. And the confusion shows up as the transition experience from the old pattern to the new one. The old behaviors no longer feel comfortable, but the new is still unfamiliar and uncomfortable. So the challenges you experience when you make change really are signs of growth.
So, what do you do in the meantime?
You keep on keeping on. Whatever it is you’re committed to, keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep working a program, practicing those skills, going to the gym. Hang in there during the long, hot days of growth. And one morning you too will wake up, feel that cool autumn breeze against your skin, and know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you’ve finally (finally!) arrived!
Until next time